Sexual ignorance

[sarahmichigan]

The sexual ignorance of some people makes me want to weep. Truly.

Sextips usually makes me laugh or want to cry. People insecure about whether they're 'normal.' Women who think it's unusual that they can't come from P-I-V sex (honey, the clit is a woman's main sexual organ!). People who think their lovers aren't dedicated to them because their lovers look at porn or have sexual fantasies. Men who think that wives are for clean and proper sex, and only sluts suck cock.

At least most of the people on sextips are there to educate themselves. Unfortunately, the people who probably most need an education about human sexuality are often the ones most insecure about seeking that information. . .

Comments

[timmytm.livejournal.com]

People seem to be striving some sort of ideal when no true one exists. I find it much more fulfilling to enjoy my relationships and experiences on their own terms, not somebody else's. I've never had to ever post a question on sextips (or any other community, really) simply because I can sort things out for myself and follow through on the steps it will take to fix things.

Or maybe people just like pre-emptively asking questions, looking for validation. Don't know.

I find it hilarious when one post will be about how to get a guy to "last longer" in bed, and then next will be about to get a guy off in the first place. The recent one about a guy whose girl orgasms too fast made me smile. It works both ways.

I think a lot of problems could be fixed if people didn't view sex as a singular act. I consider intercourse just a part of lovemaking. Girls might orgasm more during sex if they were warmed up first. Guys might not orgasm so fast if sex was it. I like variety in my lovemaking.


The ultimate hilarity is the difference between a guy and a girl posting about wanting more oral sex. Guys will get a lecture about being more understanding. Girls will get a lecture about finding a new guy and not having to put up with it. Generalizing, but you know its true.

I'll stop there lest I write more than you have. Oh wait, nevermind.

[flyinglemurs.livejournal.com]

HAH, that is funny. You know, to be honest I have not really been around all *that* much in the world all , but gads, I know these things. I guess I must be pretty open minded. And you know I wouldn't care one bit if my lover is looking at porn, as long as he doesn't expect me to look *like* the girls in there. If he understands that and its adults in the pictures, well generally we are good. And sexual fantasies, well darn I hope so...more fuel for the fire you know? Clean and proper...proper?!?..what fun is that? Hmm. Only sluts..LOL. I'm guess nearly everyone I know is a slut of some sort then.

Btw since you talk about it sporadically I went to check out this sextips site. My oh my. But what amazed me is not what people had questions about, so much as how many people are so much more willing than I to talk about those things openly-on-the-net, with full names and everything. Yipes. But thats their decision, to each their own. And it was some pretty enjoyable/interesting reading it really was. thanks.

[stacycat69.livejournal.com]

I keep debating if I want to stay on sextips or leave it :-) I mostly look for those posters that have good responses, then read their journal to see if they are cool like me :-D

I think its awesome that people have a place to go to ask questions like this. On the other hand, a lot of the questions make me cringe (usually the ones where the other party is clearly an ass, or the ones where they show their ignorance of STD's and pregnancy) but a lot of the questions are valid. The "normal" insecurities are part of anyone, (lol, mine are just about weird stuff, rather than normal sex)

Ever read the Janus report? Kinda dry, but very telling. Im definatly going to get out of the South :-)

[xx-carebear-xx.livejournal.com]

Gosh, I have these exact same feelings everytime I read the posts on there, for the most part. I can't understand what half of these people are doing even being in contact with another person. Well that may be too extreme, and I know its not something I should say according to the community rules, but really now. I just can't help myself.

There is no such thing as "normal"
If I didn't have a clit, I would never have an orgasm either.
Man, bring on the porn, I'll watch it with you!
Not to mention I think I'm the biggest slut around.

I swear, I don't get it either. I guess its hard to see where these people are comming from, because I myself am sooooo open minded and educated when it comes to this stuff. To me it just seems like common sense. I can't even recall how many men in my life, just by talking to me, think I'm great because no other girl they dated would be so open minded.

Grrrr...Ok, I think I need to stop with this comment now, because it kinda aggravates me to think about. Ugh.

[pastry-i-make.livejournal.com]

At times I think of dropping it. The biggest problem I have right now is it seems the same questions are asked over and over again. I blame this on the moderators. I think a lot of these questions can be simply answered by pointing them to past posts.

The biggest tip I have is just be open to trying anything that is pleasurable.

[amberdoopie.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately not a lot of people openly discuss sex, even with friends. I got a great mechanical explanation of how a baby is made early on by my mother, took care of an egg in sex ed, and learned about AIDS and date rape, but never knew anything really useful until I got on the internet. If people around you don't make themselves available for this sort of discussion - and they don't, damn that purtanism - then it's hard to broach the subject for those of us who want to discuss it.

I followed you from sextips, btw - I always enjoy your enlightning comments. And I agree - the posts have been rather repetitive as of late.