There's an awful lot of data showing that- if not universally- then broadly speaking, it's better not to "vent" and do angry things like yelling and punching pillows. They also mention that coupling anger with productive problem solving *can* be helpful.
But, usually, retelling the incident that made you angry or punching pillows makes you hold onto the anger longer. If you just practiced "letting it go," it's likely the anger would dissipate on its own.
And, as I said to laughlovelive above, I think there's some confirmation bias- because you (the general "you") believe the myth, you remember the times you felt better after venting or punching a pillow and tend to forget that other time when you decided just to distract yourself with a funny movie, and your anger actually dissipated faster.
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Date: 2010-05-18 02:17 pm (UTC)But, usually, retelling the incident that made you angry or punching pillows makes you hold onto the anger longer. If you just practiced "letting it go," it's likely the anger would dissipate on its own.
And, as I said to laughlovelive above, I think there's some confirmation bias- because you (the general "you") believe the myth, you remember the times you felt better after venting or punching a pillow and tend to forget that other time when you decided just to distract yourself with a funny movie, and your anger actually dissipated faster.