Generally, I check purpose before I say anything. If what I have to say serves a valid and implementable purpose (giving suggests that can't or won't be used is not being helpful), I might go ahead and offer what I have to say. More often than not, I simply keep my mouth shut and smile. It makes me less enemies.
A friend of mine once told me that if someone could use your advise, chances are they would have already done so. The fact they haven't generally points to there being an impediment to doing so. Pointing out their failure will not make them happier and will not solve the problem.
I keep my advise for people I respect and advise boards. If someone really, really wants my help, they will ask for it directly.
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Date: 2005-11-28 09:01 am (UTC)A friend of mine once told me that if someone could use your advise, chances are they would have already done so. The fact they haven't generally points to there being an impediment to doing so. Pointing out their failure will not make them happier and will not solve the problem.
I keep my advise for people I respect and advise boards. If someone really, really wants my help, they will ask for it directly.