Structure vs. Spontaneity

[sarahmichigan]

It sometimes irks me that my week is so structured that it's difficult for me to do anything spontaneously, to make a coffee date with less than 2 weeks notice, or go visit my writing group that I've abandoned for more than a year, or whatever.

And yet, I thrive on structure and scheduling, and I tend to feel anxious if I don't have at least some structure. Plus, I get more done with a schedule. For instance, if I didn't have my 3 solid "go to the gym and lift weight" days solidly planted in my weekly schedule, I know that I would not be very consistent with those workouts. 

I wish I could find a balance, where I had enough structure and scheduling that I felt calm but wasn't SO tightly scheduled that I feel like it's impossible to find time to make friends or even spend more time with current friends.

I think this balance is one of the things I'm seeking with my new job arrangement- I'll be pretty scheduled 3 days a week, with more freedom the other 4 days a week. If only I could figure out how to apply that better to my social/family/personal life. . .

Comments

[custardfairy.livejournal.com]

Why don't you schedule a spontaneous day? :)

[sarahmichigan.livejournal.com]

You are silly but wise.

[dionysus1999.livejournal.com]

I'd like to quit my job so I can have more time for a social life too.

[sarahmichigan.livejournal.com]

I don't so much need more time for a social life; I just feel over-planned sometimes, and like it's hard to do things spontaneously.

I think the next project should be to find you a better job and or get you going back to school if you want.