Sexual ignorance

[sarahmichigan]

The sexual ignorance of some people makes me want to weep. Truly.

Sextips usually makes me laugh or want to cry. People insecure about whether they're 'normal.' Women who think it's unusual that they can't come from P-I-V sex (honey, the clit is a woman's main sexual organ!). People who think their lovers aren't dedicated to them because their lovers look at porn or have sexual fantasies. Men who think that wives are for clean and proper sex, and only sluts suck cock.

At least most of the people on sextips are there to educate themselves. Unfortunately, the people who probably most need an education about human sexuality are often the ones most insecure about seeking that information. . .

Comments

[timmytm.livejournal.com]

People seem to be striving some sort of ideal when no true one exists. I find it much more fulfilling to enjoy my relationships and experiences on their own terms, not somebody else's. I've never had to ever post a question on sextips (or any other community, really) simply because I can sort things out for myself and follow through on the steps it will take to fix things.

Or maybe people just like pre-emptively asking questions, looking for validation. Don't know.

I find it hilarious when one post will be about how to get a guy to "last longer" in bed, and then next will be about to get a guy off in the first place. The recent one about a guy whose girl orgasms too fast made me smile. It works both ways.

I think a lot of problems could be fixed if people didn't view sex as a singular act. I consider intercourse just a part of lovemaking. Girls might orgasm more during sex if they were warmed up first. Guys might not orgasm so fast if sex was it. I like variety in my lovemaking.


The ultimate hilarity is the difference between a guy and a girl posting about wanting more oral sex. Guys will get a lecture about being more understanding. Girls will get a lecture about finding a new guy and not having to put up with it. Generalizing, but you know its true.

I'll stop there lest I write more than you have. Oh wait, nevermind.

[sarahmichigan.livejournal.com]

You're not the only one who has noted the double-standard about men and women asking about the same sort of thing and getting different attitudes. Think it has to do with the demographic that the average sextips poster is an American female between 17 and 24?

[timmytm.livejournal.com]

Entirely possible. It's an age when people are still exploring how to accept themselves, as well as accepting other people into their lives. Sometimes we just experience things at different times. I've always considered myself a step ahead of the curve, but it was still that critical intimacy which made me just.. get it.