It doesn't sound like we're in any really serious disagreement. I can't do calorie-counting diets because they make me neurotic. When I denounce diets, I do not mean to imply in any way that modifying your eating habits to include lower fat, higher fiber, more fruits and veggies, less processed food, etc. is equivalent to starving yourself on a silly fad diet. I support all those things

I suspect that the exercise and dealing with your anxiety have a lot more to do with your weight maintenance than with the calorie-counting, but I support your methods, whatever they are, if they're working for you and if you feel better. :)