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sarahmichigan) wrote2008-05-31 08:21 am
sarahmichigan) wrote2008-05-31 08:21 am
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How did you learn to love yourself?
I gave a kick-ass speech about size acceptance in my dreams last night. I was with a group of former co-workers having a drink. I mentioned in passing that I'd given up talking smack about my body and had pretty much learned to accept and even love myself and my fat. One of my co-workers asked, "But how?"
And I went off on a rant, and hit all the highlights pretty well:
-I stopped trying to suck in my stomach and pretend it wasn't there and started really looking myself in the mirror without criticizing.
-I learned to buy and wear clothes that weren't too tight (because many fatties refuse to buy clothing in bigger sizes when they put on weight) or too loose so that I had no shape, but rather sharp, tailored clothing.
-I realized that this was the size I was meant to be, and that all the women in my family are around my size, or bigger.You can chalk this up to similar eating habits, but multiple scientific studies with twins show that genetics is the hugest influence on ultimate adult body size.
-I've learned not to care if people think that I've just "given up" or have "taken the easy way out"; my mental health is just as important as my physical health, and constantly striving to be a size I'm not meant to be isn't any good for my mental health.
And I went off on a rant, and hit all the highlights pretty well:
-I stopped trying to suck in my stomach and pretend it wasn't there and started really looking myself in the mirror without criticizing.
-I learned to buy and wear clothes that weren't too tight (because many fatties refuse to buy clothing in bigger sizes when they put on weight) or too loose so that I had no shape, but rather sharp, tailored clothing.
-I realized that this was the size I was meant to be, and that all the women in my family are around my size, or bigger.You can chalk this up to similar eating habits, but multiple scientific studies with twins show that genetics is the hugest influence on ultimate adult body size.
-I've learned not to care if people think that I've just "given up" or have "taken the easy way out"; my mental health is just as important as my physical health, and constantly striving to be a size I'm not meant to be isn't any good for my mental health.