It sounds like your approach is really similar to the "overcoming overeating" approach, which basically says, "Listen to your body!"

-Eat when you're hungry.
-Stop when you're full (NOT stuffed, just pleasantly full).
-Legalize all foods. There are no "good" foods or "bad" foods.
-There are, however, foods that make you FEEL good or bad. Pay attention to how your body feels when you eat a particular food and decide if it's something you want to keep in your food plan.
-Keep nutritious and delicious food around you at all times, so that whenever you're hungry, you can eat. This way, you never allow yourself to feel ravenous. When you get too hugry, you'll tend to overeat.
-Stay active, but don't be legalistic about this, either. Try different movements and see how your body feels.
-Stop negative body thoughts in their tracks. When your brain tells you, "You're fat and ugly!" challenge your mind back. Figure out what's REALLY bothering you. Sometimes when your brain tells you you're fat or ugly, it's really because you're bothered about something else in your life.
-When you look at yourself in the mirror, do NOT allow yourself to say anything negative. Just observe and accept.