The analysis doesn't work. If someone is going to fuck you over, they will do so regardless of whether or not you give up control. The fuckers will generally hang on far longer than the people you actually want to keep. The fuckers have to hand on, it's all they've got.

I eventually learned if control was an issue, I was hanging out with the wrong person and I needed to get done with them. It's more a sampling problem rather than an interpersonal issue. Once I started being aware that I was chasing off the good people and holding onto the assholes, it became much easier to find the people I wanted.